The Reply

I was shocked and excited at the same time! I said YES!! and we hugged (and kissed wink wink). i was a wonderful moment. I was still in shock though and let me tell you it took over a week for it to sink in. I went home that night on a magic cloud.

My girls were the first to know then my siblings were the first to see the ring! all received it with joy and lots of screams and exclamations. It is a sad thing I could not tell my parents. So it stayed with my friends and some family but none of them key!

Even with all that going on, I had to get ready to leave my office and prepare for the new move to my new job. This is not easy and sometimes every passing day, I wish it were my last but then we are in a busy season so it would be the worst time to abandon the team. I will definitely miss them but then in an odd way I am looking forward to my new job. There has also been a lot of financial tension which I hope will be sorted out next year.

More to come when I get the time to.

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An Unexpected Surprise!!

Just a few weeks ago I had a countdown on my blog for the return of JN. Well he came back safely and unfortunately I have been to busy to update my blog and for that I apologize.

We have been spending some good time together, though not as much as I would want because well let's just say he is on demand by many people like his two families and trust me I understand.

One would think that this time apart would make you the most lovie dovie couple that cherishes every moment till they are to part again. Building only wonderful happy memories... but I was wrong! We were still the same in most aspects and at some point we clashed and had this HUGE fight out of no where and the actual reason is too embarrassing to write about.

We spent the whole day fight texting till we decided to meet up and talk to sort it all out. Soon enough we had heard both sides and we owned up to our mistakes and apologised and all was forgiven. Then JN whispers to me telling me to close my eyes. I did...(atleast I tried not to close my eyes a few peeps here and there until he caught me then I would shut them again). He left me in the chair I was at for like two minutes and came back fumbling as he got to his knees (this I put together after the incident since i still didnt know at the time what was going on)

Then I heard a box shut! and since I couldn't open my eyes I raised my eyebrow to a thought slithered through my head. Before I could debate on it, I heard the question going through my ear.

" Shaaka will you Marry Me?"

The Countdown Winds up

A few hours till he arrives, ok they are some how many hours but then they are fewer than 24hrs. The whole team is in the air so they are almost home J Am I excited? Well right now yes!! Earlier this morning I woke up with so much to do but then most of the work was in the evening so I decided to come in a bit late to work. I watched a few series and before I knew it, it was time for me to leave. When I got to work everyone was teasing me reminding me that JN is arriving tonight? For some I told them it was nothing while for others I would scream and give them a dance, hahahha. Just to make them happy. When afternoon came I was running around all over the place so I met even more and more people teasing me and asking me when he was arriving.

Comments like “how many hours?” “why are you so happy today?”

I felt it was a bit too much! Yish. Then to top it off we had a shoot in JN’s Department and everyone was all teasing me endlessly, I almost failed to get the shoot done because people kept interrupting.

They ask if I am going to the airport and I told them I will be at a dinner by the time JN arrives and I have to be there. Besides what matters is that I agreed with JN that we would meet when he has properly rested after they have arrived and rested.
So right now am at the salon getting my hair done since this dinner cannot be taken lightly as I could meet the President since he will be there.

I am excited that I get to see my man after so long. So after three long months!!
My count down soon comes to a close.

Just Coz I say So.

Procrastination and more interesting shocks

So today was an interesting day. I basically had only a shoot in the afternoon so most of the day was spent in real procrastination. I knew I had some work to do like the script for the afternoon shoot was not yet written out but then I would never get round to doing it. Somehow I always had something distracting me or I would just put it on hold as I read or do something else. It was so funny when I thought about it. I even managed to take a nap in the office at about midday and I still had not done anything really work related. Then I watched a Video by some dutch creative masterminds about Procrastination and i burst out laughing to know am not the only one like that.

So my day took a turn for the interesting when I was reading a friend's blog and she had a Video (Expilcitly showing what is happening down there when you are giving birth) I promise! I am not ready to be done like they did that woman OMG!!!! brrrrr i shudder at the thought!!

As if that was not enough we go for the shoot and part of it happens to be in the slums, so we are shooting in this mud wattle one bedroomed house when suddenly noises start drifting in from the wall I was leaning on! At first I like

"Huh? Whats that?"

Then the noise of a creaking bed that sounds like people were jumping on it. Then it hit me!!!

"Ah!"

I could not believe my ears there was a couple getting their groove on (you know what i mean (wink) next door. This happened through out the shoot I could not help but laugh in disbelief. Funnily it was sooo funny. Like the birth Video was not traumatising enough now the romping couple next door. We finished quickly and left but man! What an experience! Hahaha

I think i have had enough drama for one day! hmmmmm

Happy World Aids Day, Stay Safe, remember it begins with You!

Three days to go

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Blues?? Cure??.... Answer: Accountability

I had a tough week last week where I found myself so emotional on everything I hear, see, watch or even think. It was annoying and frustrating me as to why I was teary when I watch something remotely sad! Anyway some how I found myself falling down the path of negativity (which people who know me well find that it is unlike me) but yes, I was starting to talk negative about what challenges from home to my relationship and work. Small things that would not really matter, even the fact that JN had not communicated for 2days became a big issue in my head.

So when I was talking to one of my girlfriends, she asked me how I was, I just poured my heart out trying not to sob and that was the end of it really. It felt so good to have someone put some sense back into your head. I definitely had the defeated attitude, which was not characteristic of God's wonderful daughters. She just encouraged me in the words of God and it was such a relief that what I needed was just a little push in the right direction.

God heard my prayers too; I got a call from JN which made it all the better and I was happy we really talked for some good time too. So with all the emotional fog on my mind gone, I was able to see clearly and sanely with a positive and determined attitude.

Friends, there is nothing more enticing to the devil than a Child of God suffering alone. That is like Big time Bait!!! So that's where I discovered the joy of being accountable to someone. Accountability for me has been something that I shunned since it can be used against you and many other excuses but then I believe its a way to grow and stay firm in your decisions and also have another hand that will help you stay standing when you cannot do it yourself. This I am sure happens to everyone. When you cannot fight yourself and its when having someone you are accountable to (and is accountable back) is a call away. Without need for the whole long story sometimes all you have to say is " Help!" and they know what to do or say.

One thing though is being accountable to the right person. I am accountable to one of my best friends (AM) who is close to me like a sister and she is those kinds of friends who will not be afraid to tell it to you in the face and snap you back to reality. I know it is the same for me. I am very optimistic about this and we have started by sharing useful habits and shows on TV to watch. We are always texting each other about our devotions and we are soon to start having time to sit, share and pray for each other as accountability partners. I know that the Devil is going to fight this, like he does when we make headway to being closer to God but then I am sure we will defeat him (badly!) and come out victors in Christ.

Like the saying goes a problem shared is a half a problem solved. So make sure you share with some you know will give you godly advice, not always what you want to hear.

Any thoughts or experiences to share on Accountability? Please share...

Four days to go

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Children

Today I had the privilege and challenge of working with children for one of the ads we are working on. So i had to spend some time with them so that when we get to the shoot they would be comfortable knowing someone amidst the crew and cameras.

I must say they were the sweetest bunch ever and i could tell they were brought up well with the best their parents could offer. They were not related so they were very diverse. It was two girls and a boy. So as the boy, Michael (who is the oldest like 7yrs) was trying to all act macho and mature, there was also the diva, Ivanca (about 6yrs) who had this drama queen attitude though in a sweet way. i was sure she wanted to be just like her mother. Then there was the youngest, Damita (about 4yrs) who would just melt me every time she opened her mouth to speak.

First of all, it was a like a breath of fresh air dealing with children and not the usual adults (who can be a pain). Then I had to pull out all my children skills to keep them motivated for all the takes that we had to do. After a lot of tries and bribing with sweets (which I found very productive since we got the best takes from them hehehe) we managed to get them rolling. By the time we were done, they still wanted to continue doing what they had been doing before until we told them it was over(and threw in a couple of more sweets as a thank you). It was an amazing experience and I also hope to have children of my own someday. Maybe 5? Maximum.

I was happy when we were done and going back to more work was not as an exhausting thought as it normally is after shoots. One thing I like about my job right now is the fact that I don't have my annoying bosses chasing me around and am doing my job with more productivity and self motivation that I wasn't able to exercise earlier.

Is there some work experiences you have had that you would like to share?

Nice weekend

Friends and Frienemies

I work in a relational environment. Here people mind the other person's business. Both in the good and bad ways. It also happens to be the same place where JN works so we are a well known couple in the organization. Now that it is a week till he returns, everyone (some with good and others with bad intentions) is teasing me and watching me as the excited other half who was left behind.

I know some are jealous that JN's team comes back earlier than the usual teams that go out. But well that's their tough luck. One thing I have learnt and grown up to deal with is gossip and the knowledge that not everyone who smiles at you wishes you well. I work with so many people as we are the Communication Department and so all messages advertised and events go through our office and in the process i work with so many people frequently we become work friends. And some things like your relationship status come up. Since it is something am proud of am not afraid to share the basic stuff of how we met.

Later word comes to me (probably from the grape vine or a conversation) about a twisted version or how they wonder when you would be breaking up. At first, it used to nag me, but then I decided that those are unhappy people who have nothing to do with their lives but bad mouth other's happiness. So i rose above that. Am sure that I will not be shaken and now if the news is not from the source then I wont believe it.

So do I have friends they are few and they are my real friends. There is o one else i call friend apart from a chosen few. They are less than 10 but they have been the best ever. Honestly i would rather have non than a whole bunch of unreal "friends". Dont get me wrong am not perfect either but these few made the cut for me. I can be myself, my true self not afraid that two days later some one down the street will be knowing my business.

what are your thoughts?

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